If you follow Gretchen Rubin’s podcast and blog, you know that she does a “19 for 2019” list instead of your typical new years resolution list. Every year you set a realistic number of goals for yourself, instead of making an unrealistic list and spreading yourself too thin. This year I decided to do a “19 for 2019” list that focuses on developing my mental, physical, spiritual, relationship, and social health. I realized that I let myself go at times in 2018. My anxiety got the best of me a number of times and unfortunately (like many grad students) I let my social life with my close friends fall by the wayside. Despite this, 2018 was an incredible year full of new and exciting adventures. Here’s to a fabulous 2019 full of love, laughter, and peace with my world and with myself.
My 19 for 2019 Goals
1. Do not apologize for your mental health or for stepping away to take care of your mental health.
2. Read 2 “fun” (i.e. not school related) books per month.
3. Dress nicer when you leave the house (i.e. try to avoid sweatpants and old tee shirts unless you’re going to the gym).
4. Do not let your family contribute to your anxiety and depression. This includes finding healing and peace with family relationships.
5. Do not give up what makes you happy/what you want just to make others happy. Say “no” right away if your heart tells you that you’re not in the mood to do something. That’s okay.
6. Do not make excuses for avoiding things you want to do OR for stepping away from things when you’re burnt out.
7. Be more unapologetic in general for doing things that benefit you. It’s okay to focus on yourself for once. You don’t have to do it all for everyone.
8. Save more money, budget efficiently, and spend less money. Determine a plan for this.
9. Graduate with your master’s degree in May and get a job (woo!).
10. Achieve your goal weight and continue with WW for the sake of your health and wellness (even after you lose the weight).
11. Walk every day. Even if it’s only 5 minutes. This is good for your body and your brain!
12. Go through your belongings and donate what you don’t need. Focus on the fact that you’re moving in with your fiancé in May!
13. Create time and space for your friends monthly. Even if that’s just catching up on the phone or having a meal with everyone together.
14. Make time for my sister every week. Whether it’s spending time together or calling on the phone and talking for an hour.
15. Do one date night “out” per month. Nothing fancy is necessary every time, you just have do to more than just staying in and going to bed early.
16. Go to mass regularly and pray every day. Do not abandon God because of your frustrations with this world.
17. Stop drinking pop (again). It is SO bad for you.
18. Do yoga more regularly. For your body, your mind, and your soul. You need this.
19. Do one new fun thing every month. Whether it’s trying a new coffee shop, going to a new workout class, or doing something fun with your fiancé. Life is not fun unless you pursue new adventures!